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The Scenestress is Sick of Secrets

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Remember last year when Sarasota High School was banning the use of certain anonymous posting apps?  Well, it seems this behavior isn't just relegated to the youth.

Sadly, some of our adult community members have been engaging in some immature and often downright cruel flaming online.

I downloaded the app, Secret earlier this summer.  It started off harmless enough.  It was a stream of anonymous confessions.  Frequently they were funny.  Sometimes they were poignant.  It was a harmless glimpse into real life disclosures. I didn't check it everyday but there was a draw to reading the secrets.

This was an example of the types of secrets you used to see before things got ugly.

This was an example of the types of secrets you used to see before things got ugly.

After you shared the app with members of your social network, it would start informing you if the secret was posted by a Facebook friend, or a friend of a friend.  But that was it. Anonymity preserved.

As more people in the Sarasota area started to use it, the posts started turning nasty. People were being called out by name. Subjects were having their character attacked, as well as their relationships, morals... even their HIV status. It turned very quickly into what the high school kids are referring to as "slut shaming."

Sarasota socialite Zara Barrie spoke out publicly on her Facebook page against the app, urging people to delete it and stop engaging.

I notice I've become less and less interested in reading any of the posts.  They've turned sad, not in content but in behavior.

I'm particularly noticing the twentysomething gay community cannibalizing each other through this anonymous posting.  A demographic that should be forming unifying bonds is lashing out in the most cowardly catfights.

When our parents' generation had a beef with someone, they were forced to say things to each other's faces. It's sad to say that technology is taking away our cojones.

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